Hey peeps! ?
I hope you are all doing well! Today I wanna share something with you that’s been bothering me a lot: unfairness. If there is anything in this world that can trigger me and drive me crazy, it’s unfairness. Because unfairness is something that other people put upon you and you can’t change a damn thing about it. What’s this about, Melisa?
Let me tell you what I mean:
On Tuesday, Fabian and I had to defend our business paper at an oral exam. We’ve put so much time and effort into this paper because the expectation bar was set high to begin with. At the individual exam, both, Fabian and I could answer all questions in regards to the syllabus and even beyond. Both the examiner as well as the censor (the person “supposedly” making sure that the examiner doesn’t grade you unfairly) were very content with our paper, in fact, they said and I quote “This is one of the best papers I have ever read… We really hope you pursue this idea”. So, they didn’t give us a 12 (the highest grade in Denmark) but a 10 (the second highest grade in Denmark) ???
Sorry about the GIFs, I couldn’t control myself ?? Back to the story:
I didn’t know what to say… I know what you’re thinking “Oh relax, you got the 2. best grade so what?” The so-what is that I haven’t gotten a proper logical explanation as to why we were graded the way we were. I don’t care if I get a 10 or a 12 because both grades are really good but I do care when I get a 10 because of some teacher’s subjective opinion. Their reasoning was so circumstantial, they said that we didn’t address the risks of some outside threats in our paper (which we did). BUT we were asked questions in the oral exam about the risks/threats they wanted us to address and gave a solid explanation – which they were content with and agreed on. And may I also mention here that we were at the absolute page maximum and tried to squeeze everything the professor wanted us to write in? So with all due respect – WHAT THE FUCK?
I was so angry because I can’t deal with something stupid like this. I even told them before I left the exam room “You know, I don’t agree. I don’t think this is a valid reason for you not to give me a 12. We’ve worked very hard on this paper and answered all your questions correctly.” But they didn’t say anything just nodded and then asked me to leave the exam room. I mean …
Do you know how mad you have to be about an exam that you go and visit the exam complaint office of the university short after the exam itself? ??
We went there because I just wanted to explore our options. The lady there explained it all and said that IF our complaint goes through, we would have to do the exam over with new examiners – but what assurance do I have that those are not gonna pull a number on us as well? Exactly, NONE. And besides, it’s not worth going through all this hassle because of a 10. I would have done it if we would have gotten anything below a 10 but like this, it just doesn’t pay off.
I am by far the only person this has happened to, it happened to many of my friends and Fabian already, and there is just nothing we can do about this type of unfairness. Sometimes you have know when you’re defeated and accept whatever bullshit people throw at you. It doesn’t make it any less annoying but sometimes things are out of our hands and we just can’t control them.
I’m not saying you should accept whatever comes your way, on the contrary. If there is a way to set things right, do it. But if there isn’t, learn from it, make your peace with it and move on ?.
That was it from me today. Comment below if something like this ever happened to you – then we get to gossip about it together ?
Blog to you soon!